a word about healthy Dating

here's an excerpt adapted from
Boundaries in Dating: Making Dating Work by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend.

"Dating is ultimately about love. People seek it through dating. When they find it, and it matures, they often make deep commitments to each other. Freedom and responsibility are necessary for love to develop in dating. When two individuals allow each other freedom and take ownership of the relationship, they are creating an environment for love to grow and mature. Freedom and responsibility create a safe and secure environment for a couple to love, trust, explore and deepen their experience of each other.

Simply put, many of the struggles people experience in dating relationships are at heart caused by some problem in the areas of freedom and responsibility. By freedom, we mean your ability to make choices based on your values, rather than choosing out of fear or guilt. Free people make commitments because they feel it’s the right thing to do, and they are wholehearted about it. By responsibility, we mean your ability to execute your tasks in keeping the relationship healthy and loving, as well as being able to say no to things you shouldn’t be responsible for. Responsible people shoulder their part of the dating relationship, but they don’t tolerate harmful or inappropriate behavior. "

peugeot's stylo error404

as per angelus's request, here i am to post sthg..

this is now my 403rd post.. and i rem making a hoo ha over my 100th post on my blog last time.. how time flies.

anyhow, you know sometimes you try to get to a webpage but you're shown error404 and you're super irritated/frustrated? i came across peugeot's page for erroneous links, wah it really reduces teh negative emotions with its super stylo layout.... but then peugeot is known for its support for design. in fact it was precisely while i was surfing the entries for a design competition organised by peugeot that i came across this stylo error404 webpage.



now where did the error code disappear to? its found on the car plate number. fun and quirky. but at the same time some pp may not be able to spot that, since its not at the usual and prominent place. and for techies who need techincal information to troubleshoot, this little lack of usability may prove to be a source of inconvenience and of cuz irritation.

as someone (i forgot who) said in a human factors seminar which i attended recently, when human factors clash with the aesthetic/mechanical/etc design of teh product, it simply means that the design is not finished yet. the design muz keep on improving such that it is wholistic, being attractive, functional, and easy to use, all at the same time.

anyway, here's teh entries for the design competition. there're some really cool cars here.. and there's even a sg entry, which managed to garner 1200plus votes. not bad ald. =) (but no, the sg entry is not called alexandra road..haha)

Enjoy!

random tots

my life.... its been so different these 3 months..

without him.. without dance.. and i'm finally seeing a glimpse of light in my work in a v long time..

and how i've grown so much closer to You oh Lord..my days are filled with light and joy becuz of You..

i really really miss him.. and dance.. but they cannot co-exist.. and i'm not sure if i want to go back to the days of darkness..

teach me O Lord, where i should go..

SolidWorks helps in cinematic technology

hello!! haha surprised to see a new post, aren't you? yes i've been neglecting this space, AGAIN.

i've been wanting to post on quite a few occasions, but those occasions all involve putting pictures up, which is quite troublesome for me especially when i dun have bluetooth on my comp. and i'm reluctant to use cable cuz this means my phone is turned off for a while.. (as if he would call anytime, ha)

anyway, this is something i wanna share with all of you - SolidWorks helps in breakthrough design of something that’s close to the heart of the consumer i.e. YOU. (not that SolidWorks seldom helps in breakthrough designs, just that those designs that involve SolidWorks are mainly in the backend – production machines which are used to MAKE the consumer products instead of BEING the consumer products themselves, meaning that consumers find it hard to sense the power of SolidWorks. but this time the SolidWorks-aided-revolutionary product in question is closer to all of you, the consumer, tat's y the hooha)

Just imagine, whenever you enjoy a movie that involves some action-packed scenes, it may be thanks to the power of SolidWorks. Read on to find out why.

(and yes I discovered I’m really prone to occupational hazard – last time I kept on yabbering about usability, and I still do, and now I rave about the power of SolidWorks. Haha)


‘Snakehead’ camera system, designed in SolidWorks, soars in new Bond film



New aerial periscope system puts movie goers in the action



CONCORD, Mass., May 12, 2008 — A breakthrough movie camera system called the Snakehead, designed entirely in SolidWorks® 3D CAD software, is resetting the boundaries of cinematography, immersing viewers more deeply than ever in hair-raising aerial action.

With the Snakehead, pilots for the first time can fly as aggressively as they dare without sacrificing the drama of the shot. SpaceCam Systems, Inc. of Los Angeles debuted the Snakehead last month in the canyons of Baja, Mexico, for the upcoming James Bond film “Quantum of Solace.” The month-long shoot was “wildly successful,” according to veteran aerial cinematographer Dwayne McClintock, also a mechanical engineer who co-designed the system. “We shot some astonishing footage, like nothing you’ve seen before,” he said. The Snakehead also worked “flawlessly” on a TV commercial in which a Jeep rolled out the door of a cargo plane 10,000 feet above the desert sand.

With a 360-degree remotely controlled spherical range of view, the patented Snakehead is the first plane-mounted gyroscopically stabilized periscope, compatible with various movie and HD cameras and providing super high quality resolution. The lens system maintains a level horizon, solidifying a frame of reference to keep viewers in the story. Traditional aerial cinematography approaches – for example, a fixed periscope on a Lear jet – distract and sometimes sicken viewers by depicting a seemingly lurching horizon. If the filming plane needs to adopt the point of view of a chasing aircraft, however, Snakehead operators can turn off the stabilization to convey its maneuvers.

“As they will see in the Bond film, the Snakehead puts moviegoers in the middle of the action instead of just observing, or worse, being virtually tossed around in the theater,” said McClintock. “The Snakehead is by far the most challenging design I’ve ever attempted. SolidWorks software’s efficiency made the work so much easier than it could have been. SolidWorks let us design a better product by cycling through dozens of iterations and working with flexible subassemblies. We had many original crazy and weird-looking parts that, thanks in large part to SolidWorks, went together seamlessly the first time. The Snakehead exceeded our expectations.”

In the Bond filming, a Piper Aerostar 700 with Snakeheads on the nose and tail filmed two planes in a aerial chase sequence and dogfight.

SpaceCam collaborated on the design with engineers at Ballista Inc. of Westlake Village, Calif., which engineered the optics, also using SolidWorks software. The Snakehead posed several significant design challenges for the combined team, including battering from weather and debris, mechanical rotation, and image inversion (Ballista used SolidWorks to create a fourth, “derotation” prism to keep the filmed image upright in the periscope).

“What I like most about SolidWorks is the flexibility,” said Walt Caldwell, vice president of production and operations for Ballista. “Whenever you start a project with nothing but an idea you wind up in a different place than you thought you would, constantly making multiple iterations with major changes. SolidWorks lets us quickly change a component and replace it with a new one, and all the mates and parent/child relationships are intact. SolidWorks makes major changes easy, without having to start the model all over again.”

“The Snakehead is a revolutionary product,” said Rainer Gawlick, vice president of worldwide marketing for SolidWorks Corporation. “It’s inspiring to see our software help launch an innovation that will have a resounding impact on cinematography and entertainment.”

Ballista and SpaceCam rely on authorized SolidWorks reseller GoEngineer for ongoing software training, implementation, and support.

About SpaceCam

SpaceCam Systems, Inc. is the leader and industry standard in aerial and specialized gyro-stabilized cinematography. Its office, design, and manufacturing facility is located in Westlake Village, Calif. SpaceCam Systems provides: gyro-stabilized camera equipment services to the film, television, large format, and commercial industry; SpaceCam camera systems; specialized helicopter bracketry; and Snakehead camera systems for fixed-wing applications. A variety of camera options are available, including 35mm-4 perf, 35mm-8 perf, 65mm-5 perf, 65mm-15 perf, and numerous HD cameras. For more information visit www.spacecam.com or call 818 889-6060.

Ron Goodman, the president of SpaceCam, was the chief engineer and inventor of the Snakehead. His career-long commitment and dedication is to the advancement and betterment of gyro-stabilized image capturing.


About Ballista, Inc.

Ballista is a privately owned company that specializes in the development of display products, medical devices, and illumination-based systems. Its offices and manufacturing facilities are located in Westlake Village, Calif. Ballista provides custom product development and manufacturing services for the assembly and test of optical systems. Included in these services is the qualification and management of suppliers and warehousing of finished goods and order fulfillment services. Current products include high-performance display systems and light delivery systems for medical, scientific, and entertainment applications. For more information, contact: info@ballistainc.com, (805) 497-6541 Ext. 222.



About GoEngineer

GoEngineer represents market-leading products such as SolidWorks, CAMWorks™ and COSMOS® software, which deliver the 3D CAD and CAM tools that enable design teams to create innovative products; PDMWorks® software, which provides the control of up-to-date design information; Z Corporation’s™ 3D Printers, which help teams quickly and effectively communicate product concepts to create better products faster. And Agile Advantage™ is distinguished by its ease of use and implementation. These products are leveraged by GoEngineer’s unique JumpStart® Services designed to bring streamlined engineering processes to businesses with support from local application engineers and a toll-free hotline. GoEngineer has 11 training centers and offices throughout the Western United States. For information, visit: www.goengineer.com.


About SolidWorks Corporation
SolidWorks Corporation, a Dassault Systèmes S.A. (Nasdaq: DASTY, Euronext Paris: #13065, DSY.PA) company, develops and markets software for design, analysis, and product data management. It is the leading supplier of 3D CAD technology, giving teams intuitive, high-performing software that helps them design better products. For the latest news, information, or a live online demonstration, visit the company's Web site (www.solidworks.com) or call 1-800-693-9000 (outside of North America, call +1-978-371-5000).


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SolidWorks is a registered trademarks of SolidWorks Corporation. Other brand and product names are trademarks of their respective owners. Copyright (c) 2008 SolidWorks Corporation.

Proof that God exists (anecdotal)

proof that God exists:















for who else can, and will create such beauty?

hamster-powered paper shredder

i'd love to have htis!!!



its a cute distraction, and is functional.

its a hamster-powered paper shredder!

read more about it here

poem

My tears have dried,
no more can i cry.

Your love for me has faded,
like the withered flower its so jaded.

Your sincerity's just a lie,
I'm once bitten, twice shy.

Our obstacles run deep and wide,
from them we can never hide.

Let me find rest in Jesus,
in your mom's hatred i'll suffer.

You ask for an enlightenment,
in this message is the answer.

So stop procrastinating,
your passion and talents are waiting to be discovered.

be careful of holiday blues

came across the following article.. it may be written in US context and for people who already have their own families but we can still take home some of the ideas in there..

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The holiday season officially begins this week, although you may feel like it has been here for a month already. For people with depression, six weeks of enforced good cheer can feel like six years of torture, complete with its own soundtrack. What do you do if you just don't feel it inside?

Holidays Got You Singing the Blues?
By: David Sternberg


It's the most wonderful time of the year, right? Jack Frost is nipping at your nose, the turkey is roasting in the oven and your neighborhood is aglow in festive lights and holiday cheer.

So how come you're so miserable?

You may be experiencing the "holiday blues," a combination of sadness and stress that affects many people this time of year, beginning with Thanksgiving and ending around New Year's.

A major contributor to the "holiday blues" is the unrealistic expectations many of us have of the holidays, due in no small part to movies, television and advertisements.

Hollywood has long portrayed the winter holidays — particularly Christmas — as a time of magic and wonder ('It's a Wonderful Life' and 'Miracle on 34th Street' are two examples). This creates a fantasy to have a sort of Norman Rockwell experience.

But when our lives, sometimes messy and complicated, don't match these media messages, it's easy to feel that we have failed in some deep and meaningful way.

"We have such high anticipation for the holidays and very unrealistic expectations," says Atlanta psychologist Marjorie Blum. "It leaves us with this feeling of dread when our idealized views are not met."

Instead, Blum notes, "we need to expect imperfections in events and in ourselves, and expand and develop new traditions."

Tradition and expectation are often intertwined at the holidays, and when the two are at odds, it's easy to become frustrated or disappointed.

"We have traditions we like to follow at certain holidays and when someone wants to deviate, it gets those who want to retain them bent out of shape and uncomfortable," says Jannette Robert Murray, a psychotherapist in Spokane, Washington.


Another factor for the "holiday blues" is family. For most of us, the holidays mean getting together with our families. For some, unfortunately, our family is not the Hallmark version but a source of tension and conflict in which longstanding grudges often get played out.

So, while we may work hard all year at avoiding our family, at the holidays we come face-to-face with their foibles, whether it's our uncle's drinking problem or our mother's not-so-subtle jabs at our parenting skills or relationship choices.

Family tension can often sap us of energy, which can already be in short supply at the holidays.

That's because we are busier than ever this time of year — cooking holiday meals, shopping for presents, attending parties, and traveling or hosting family and friends.

The increased social demands of the holidays typically affect women more than men.

"Women are so used to doing so much for everyone around them, and the stress becomes even greater around the holidays," says Linda Stolarz, a psychotherapist in New York.

"At the holidays there are so many more people to take care of, and add to that all of the shopping and cooking to do. And if you've also got work stuff to take care of, it can become a very stressful time," she added.

Making matters worse is that the good self-care we practice all year flies right out the window at the holidays. We stay up later than we normally do and don't exercise as often as usual. On top of that, we tend to overindulge on sugary and fatty foods and alcohol, adding to our lethargy.

Compounding matters is the stress of increased traffic on the roads, large crowds at the malls (particularly if we waited to the last minute to do our shopping) and long lines at the airports and train stations.

Finally, self-reflection plays a role, as many of us look back on the previous year to gauge our progress in different areas of our lives.

Sadly, we often give our losses — anything from the death of a loved one to our youngest child leaving the nest — considerably more weight than our gains. These losses are often exacerbated at holiday get-togethers for a variety of reasons.

It may be the first Christmas or Hanukkah without a loved one or we may feel as if we "should" be happy because it is supposed to be such a joyous time


Yes, the holidays can be a difficult time, but there are several things you can do to keep yourself happy and healthy. (If, however, feelings of sadness and stress continue into the new year, you should consult a mental health professional.)

1. Eat and drink in moderation
The holidays mean lots of parties where rich food and alcohol often take center stage.

"It's a time of celebration and letting go," says Blum. "The problem is our bodies are not geared for that all or nothing kind of behavior."

While it's tempting to have that third martini or second helping of pumpkin pie, the downsides are numerous and significant: hangovers and weight gain, to name just a few.

2. Set limits and boundaries with others
If family members are a source of stress, decide to spend only part of your time with them.

Just because Aunt Sarah and Uncle Robert are in town for the Thanksgiving weekend, it doesn't mean you have to spend every waking minute with them. Give yourself a break; set aside some time for yourself or with friends.

3. Ask others for help
As natural caretakers, women tend to take on most, if not all, of the social responsibilities this time of year.

You will burn yourself out trying to do it all. Aim to be more of a manger than a one-woman show. Enlist your spouse, siblings or children to help cook, shop, pick up relatives at the airport, etc.

4. Maintain a regular exercise or self-care regimen
Even at a reduced amount (say, 20 minutes of brisk walking a day versus your usual 45 minutes on the Stairmaster), exercise will help keep you feeling good physically and emotionally.

excerpt from Courage and Calling: community as conversation

We need the grace of community. We discern our vocation in community, and we fulfill it as we are anchored in mutual interdependence with others within community. Furthermore, we negotiate our vocation with others – with our spouse, with the community of faith, with people with whom we live and work – taking into consideration their actual needs and circumstances. No vocation is fulfilled in a vacuum apart from the needs and experiences of others with whom we live and work. Having a vocation never means that we are freed from the obligations and responsibilities of communal life. All vocations are communal in character.

This is not all good news; the community, even the community of faith, can be oppressive. The traditions, expectations and cultural patterns of family and community can easily undermine our capacity to become our true selves and to discern our vocation. Some people may wonder, when they consider their own context, whether it is even possible to genuinely discern vocation in their community; they may well think that their only hope is to get away and find solitude and strength and encouragement elsewhere.

We can so easily get caught up in the expectation of others. We must be wary of people who have something to gain if we fulfill their expectations, who all too easily equate their expectations with the expectations of God, whether they be parents, pastors or other authority figures. There may be times when we need to make a break, if we conclude that the personal integrity is impossible because of the oppressive character of a community.

This is where solitude is so critical, for it is in solitude that we encounter the one to whom we owe our ultimate allegiance, the one who alone can give us security, identity and purpose. This is why we cannot live merely in community. When we do, we are easily consumed by communal expectations rather than living our life in response to the voice of God.

But even as we recognize the dangers of community and affirm the need for solitude, we must come back again and again to our critical need for community, for life lived in the company of others. We are not walking – and cannot expect to be walking – this road alone. Some form of authentic community is necessary to grant us the capacity to discover ourselves and to embrace vocation.

By community we mean the capacity to live in communion with others. This communion is a means of grace, and as such it is the very stuff of life. It is really remarkable that God says that the creation is good, very good (Gen 1) but he also states that it is “not good” for Adam to be solitary (Gen 2:18). In other words, Adam needed more than God! He needed the company of others; only through this company could the radical aloneness of the human soul be overcome.

It is in community that we learn to honour one another – to honour without flattery but with a love informed by truth. It is in community that we learn forgiveness – the capacity to bear with one another, as Christ has borne our sins and forgiven us. And it is in community that we learn how to serve and be served, how to give and receive. It is in community that we love and receive love. Without community we remain fundamentally alone, one-dimensional and disconnected – not only from others but from ourselves and God.

Ultimately conversation is the greatest gift of community and the fundamental means by which community is in the Spirit is attained. It is conversation that sustains marriage, friendship and congregational life; it is conversation that enables us to work together effectively.

Most of all, though, it is in conversation – with friends and with family members, peers and with people who are older or younger than us – that we grow in wisdom, grace and strength. It is through conversation that we are encouraged, that we fill one another with courage. When we are encouraged, we are able to overcome our fears or at least keep them at bay – and know that our fears do not drive the engine of our hearts and lives.

Conversation involves two simple acts or elements. The first is the discipline and grace of listening. There is probably no greater service that we give one another than to listen. When we listen to others, we attend to them, honour them, accept them and respond to what matters most to them. Nothing so demonstrates that we love other people as does listening to them.

Of course we listen only when we resist temptation to say something, to teach something or worse, to tell people what they “should” do before we have really heard them. The death of conversation comes when we speak before we listen, when we speak before others have really spoken, when we jump to conclusions or make premature assumptions about what they are going to say.

Then of course, conversation includes speaking. But speaking must be without innuendo, complaint, or sarcasm. It is the word spoken without pretense or posturing, the word that is the truth plainly given, without exaggeration, without flattery.

Some people seem unable to speak without being patronizing; when they speak they are seeking to control or to cover their own fears. It is bad enough to speak to children with a condescending tone; but for some people patronizing speech has become a pattern, a habit of all their speaking. It undermines any possibility for genuine conversation; their words are no longer connected to their eyes, let alone their hearts.

When genuine conversation happens, it is life to us. In the listening and speaking of conversation we have the capacity for intimacy. Through conversation we come to the honesty and humility to accept who we are and to confront our innermost fears, forcing them out into the light and finding that they are not nearly as terrible as we imagined.

Through conversation with another we come to terms with our joys and sorrows; we acknowledge and live through the pain of anger, mourning and discouragement. Without conversation we are alone – alone in our fears, and worse, alone because we are disconnected from ourselves. Ironically, the truth is that we are connected to ourselves only when we are connected to others; we are capable of true self-knowledge, knowledge that enables us to know and accept the call of God, only hwen we are in communion with others.

When we are consistent in the quality of our conversation with everyone – spouse, family, colleagues and others – God, in his grace and wisdom, grants us the special friendship of a few people, perhaps two or three. We cannot find intimacy with everyone; we cannot hope to and do not need to share our deepest fears with everybody. But in the race of God we can respond intentionally to a few people – likely, but not necessarily, our peers – with whom conversation becomes increasingly honest and true, without pretense or posturing. In my relationships with the few men with whom I have this kind of friendship, we can pick up where we left off even when we have not seen each other for a year or two. I count these friendships – just three or four along the way – to be among the most precious gifts that God has given me, second only to the joy I have in married life and as a father.

still wishing for a future that's not possible..

i'm listening to 被风吹过的夏天by JJ and Jin Sha..

i haven't listened to this song for a few months.. i havent dared to.

and just now i came across it in my music playlist.. i thought i could listen to it now.. but it turns out i'm wrong.. still flooded by memories.. still wishing for a future that is not possible..

haiz.

I MISS DANCE!!!!~~~~~!!!!!

♥ "Dancers are the only athletes who aren't allowed to show how much it hurts."

♥ "Dancing appears glamorous, easy, delightful. But the path to the paradise of that achievement is not easier than any other. There is fatigue so great that the body cries, even in its sleep. There are times of complete frustration; there are daily small deaths. " Martha Graham

♥"Dancers are the athletes of God." George Balanchine AND/OR Albert Einstein

♥ "Nothing happens in the body without happening in the brain first . . . dancing is 95% mental." Bobby Boling

♥ "Dance is the hidden language of the soul."
Martha Graham

♥ "There is such a difference when you're dancing to music you really love, when there is this meeting of music and dancer that fuses into one. Those are the experiences we live for." Alicia Alonso

♥ "Dancing allows me to explore myself in so many ways, to learn about my limitations and strengths, my ability to cope with adversity and to go farther than I thought I could. You find out what you're made of." Andrew Asnes

♥ "The heart of the dance is the heart of the dancer."
Ghazallah al-Badriyyah

♥ "Dance till the stars come down from the rafters.
Dance, dance, dance - till you drop." (Wystan Hugh) W. H. Auden

♥ "Everything in the universe has rhythm. Everything dances." Maya Angelou

♥ "Dance is about never-ending aspiration." Judith Jamison

♥ "....great dancers are not great because of their technique, they are great because of their passion" Martha Graham

♥ D… Discovering New Friends
♥ A… Appreciating Your Talents
♥ N… Never Saying Never
♥ C… Confidence & Compliments
♥ E… Exploring New Heights




I MISS DANCE!!!!~~~~~!!!!!

juz being boliao..

haha got to know about this celebrity lookalike website on wenjun's blog.. its definitely an ego booster! haha!



but wenjun is right, its not really accurate.. think i only look like song hye-kyo and josie maran below only because of the angle in which i tilt my face. haha!



and i notice that teh celebrities i look like with the 2 pictures are all different! but quite a few jap/koreans eh. or issit cuz the database got many jap and korean celebrities?? oh btw thankgoodness no male celebrities showed up .. haha